Teaching Mealtime Etiquette and Manners to People with Intellectual and Developmental Disabilities
Mealtimes offer a plethora of opportunities to practice social skills, once table behaviors are mastered. Start habit training with your young adult and help them unlock opportunities to socialize around the table, be it at a family meal, a lunch with coworkers, or dinner with friends.
Table Manners & Etiquette
Before You Get to the Table
- Turn cell phone off or on silent
- No texting at the table
- Wash hands before coming to the table
At the Table
- Napkin in lap when you sit down
- Good posture with elbows off the table
- If you need to leave the table during the meal, say “excuse me” and put your napkin on your chair until you return
Eating Etiquette
- Wait to eat until everyone has their food
- If there are more than one fork, spoon, or knife – start with the utensils on the outside first and work inward
- Bring food up to your mouth (not your mouth down to the food)
- Take bites that are not too small and not too big
- Chew with your mouth closed
- Eat slowly
Conversation Manners
- No complaining about the food
- Say “please pass the…” if you need/can’t reach something
- Use please and thank you
- Wait your turn to talk
- Talk to everyone at the table
End of the Meal Manners
- Thank the person who made the food
- Put your napkin on the table when you are finished eating
- Take your dishes to the kitchen
- Offer to help clean up
Getting in the habit of good table manners can help open doors for your young adult. Practice now for the payoff later.
